Never Stop Moving

LoLo Watson

Life has a funny way of making you question yourself; especially if you are naturally inquisitive.  You have a vision of where you want to be-check! You establish your goals with measurable timelines-check! You set your plans and prepare your course of action-check! You are feeling confident! You have taken control of your life and your destiny and you are on your way to success bliss!

BOOM<——the sound of all hell breaking loose!   *INSERT LOUD SCREAMS*

The path that you perceived to be the best route to you realizing your goals is hit with a road block that says NO ENTRANCE!  No worries, you immediately think and immediately seek an alternative route, because that is how you roll! Nothing stops you!  However, there is just one problem, YOU ARE TIRED! YOU ARE TIRED OF ALTERNATE ROUTES AND CONSTANT DETOURS!  You are like the kid in the backseat of the car on vacation, “Are we there yet?!”  

Your destiny GPS seems to only be intimate with the word ‘re-routing‘. You believe that you have done everything that was to be done! You have worked hard! You have taken hits for the team! You have genuinely supported others in achieving success! You earned your badges and stripes! However, it seems that others are constantly passing you by on the interstate of destiny fulfillment.  They seemed to have quickly arrived at destiny bliss. I mean, it is as if you are driving a scooter and others are in a Maserati!

Today, I have come to offer us some encouragement! All that we have need of: skill and character development, is achieved through our journey not in the realization of our dreams, which is our final destination!  It is through the journey that we learn who we are and of what we are made! It is through the journey that our character flaws are exposed and our underlying hidden success blockers are realized!

The actualization of the dream/arrival at our destination just means we are ready because we have been prepared! So, while it seems that other travelers, on this road to destiny, are passing us by, we must remember that they-too- are being prepared and maybe they are ready. We must remember that their ‘preparation‘ and ‘readiness training‘ may look and feel totally different than ours!

We are unclear of what was necessary to expedite their travels on this road to greatness. Neither are we always fully aware of the number of hells they have traveled through and what their sacrifices were (and in many cases are being) made.  There are so many answers to which we are not always privy. The question then becomes how do we deal? How do we get through when life throws those blows that we were not expecting?

  1. We dream and plan! We put our plans and dreams on paper and seek God for confirmation! God says, in Proverbs 16:9, that a man’s mind plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps and makes them sure. We need to continue to make our plans and submit them to God to ensure that we are in sync with His will for our lives.
  2. We have to have faith! Faith says that even when it does not feel good, when all hell is breaking lose, and when it seems that we are traveling a desolate and deserted road, we don’t stop moving. We have to take steps in the direction that we believe to be accurate, fully trusting that God will re-route us if our choices are delaying arrival at our final destination.
  3. We express gratitude! When those times come, and they will, that we believe we are getting ready to walk through a door and it slams so hard that we feel our nose is gone, we have to be thankful! Thankful that God loves us enough to close the door that was not meant for us.  No matter how professionally connected we are, regardless of how well we planned, regardless of how educated and skilled we are, we will always have finite knowledge and vision. We have to remember this! Only God knows what is happening on the other side of that door that we desire so badly! It is in our trust in Him that we activate a ‘lightening speed’ advancement on our travels.
  4. We establish a solid network! We must surround ourselves with people who demonstrate their love and support for us. When we are at our weakest, and experience surprising blows, we need those people who can give us a life hug and kiss of support and encouragement!  This type of support is priceless, more valuable than any material possession!

Disappointment will come! Surprises will come! Hardship will come! At the end of the day, we must remain faithful that we will see the end! Never stop moving! Never stop dreaming!  We shall succeed because we believe!  XOXO

~LoLo~

Happy Birthday LoLo

 

Today is my 44th birthday!

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Today is the day that I celebrate my very first victory-entrance into the world! God chose me to come into the earth at this appointed time 44 years ago!

Birthdays are a huge ordeal for me! I don’t know why, really; they just are and always have been! I am so blessed to have some of the greatest people in the world who demonstrate their love and support for me on a daily basis! I could not be where I am without your encouragement, love, support, and kicks in the butt!  As I celebrate me, I celebrate your love for me that makes me who I am! To you, I say Thank you!  The 44th birthday is not a milestone birthday, but it is an extra emotional birthday for me!

LoLo Watson The number 4 is of significance for me this birthday.  Well, my age is a double 4, my birth-date has a 4 in it and so does the year!  lolo straightEverything is double! HMMM, maybe there is something to it and maybe I am being my usual analytical self.  Either way, 4 stands out for me!

 Because I love homemade cards,  I wanted to make one for me; my own card that says what I feel about me! To that, you can only say, “That is so Marlo!” So, I share my birthday card to me for the world to see. Nothing spectacular; just a genuine description of where I am at 44!

 That Girl, in honor of You on your 44th birthday, here are 44 things that I love about Marlo Thomas Watson! 

 Marlo, I love

  1. that you love Marlo;
  2. that you are very supporting and loving;
  3. that you are passionate;
  4. that you accept people for who they are-regardless;
  5. that you love God more than anything in life;
  6. that you are such a giving person;
  7. that you are so energetic;
  8. that you are so comfy in your own skin;LoLo curly
  9. that you are so diligent;
  10. that you don’t give up;
  11. that you are strong enough to cry;
  12. that you a Believer;
  13. that you are a ‘ride/die’;
  14. that you are not afraid to love;
  15. that you are dependable;
  16. that you are learning your worth;
  17. that you are a lifelong learner;
  18. that you are compassionate;
  19. that you don’t take yourself too serious;
  20. that you are so domestic;
  21. that you are so business minded;
  22. that you are a prayer warrior;
  23. that you are genuine;
  24. that you are honest;
  25. that you are a happy person;
  26. that you are forgiving;
  27. that you are annoying;
  28. that you are such a #NERD;
  29. that you don’t allow others to define you;
  30. that you are versatile;
  31. that you are tenacious;
  32. that you are vulnerable;
  33. that you are independent;
  34. that you are forever growing;
  35. that you are not defined by your ethnicity, gender, or ancestry;
  36. that you never meet a stranger;
  37. that you are funny;
  38. that you are bold;
  39. that you are courageous;
  40. that you are a perfectionist in recovery;
  41. that you are protective;
  42. that you are hospitable;
  43. that you are corny;
  44. that you are sarcastic!

Marlo, there is so much that I could say about you; there is so much more to you that many don’t know!

lolo short However, what I will say to you this day, August 14, 2014 on your 44th birthday, is that I am very proud of the person you are and the person you are becoming!

I am proud of all that you have accomplished in this short life and just know that it is only just beginning. You have survived the worst of it.  God has placed some amazing people in your life who love and accept you for you: the good, the bad, and the ugly!

Keep pushing! Keep loving! Keep asking! Keep receiving!

Happy 44th Birthday! I love you!

 

 

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How Do I Handle Disappointment? I Believe!

sadnessHave you ever done everything that you know to do and nothing goes according to plan? Worse than things not working out, your life implodes! Everything that could go wrong does so in extreme fashion. Embarrassing. Humiliating at best.  If you have never found yourself in a situation remotely resembling this, this blog is not for you. My life has been far from perfect. As a matter of fact, as far back as I can remember, it was met with extreme obstacles, abuse, and many disappointments. I, too, have been far from perfect. However, I did not believe that my lack of perfection justified the situations and circumstances that I have faced. I am talking about disappointment that does not have any logical explanation. If you have not realized it, I am a very inquisitive individual. When I have experienced this level of disappointment, my first response was always WHY?! What did I not do right? How did I miss the mark? Did I not pray enough? Maybe, I  did not tithe enough! Maybe I did not volunteer enough! The  “Did I nots”…and the “I must haves” continued on a downward spiral.  I began to look at my life and life of others and asked…

  • How does a kid go to school, graduate with a 4.5 and not receive a full ride to an institution of higher education?
  • How does a person never smoke a cigarette and become diagnosed with cancer?
  • Why are loving couples unable to conceive while other individuals have abortions as if they were a form of birth control?
  • How does a hardworking individual get overlooked on jobs, while a lazy person is promoted?

 NATURAL AND SPIRITUAL LOGIC ARE NOT THE SAME!  

I think that it is our natural human nature to have an explanation for everything! It is our innate need to make sense out of nonsense. Perhaps there are situations that justify such inquisition. However, I am learning that many times, when we encounter situations such as this, we have been set-up by God to demonstrate (to ourselves) what we are made of. We are building spiritual muscles, if you will.

Take a trip down memory lane with me. Close your eyes and ask yourself the following questions: When _________(fill in the blank) happened, did I lose my mind? When __________(fill in the blank) happened did I survive? Did I realize strength that I never knew existed? Did it prepare me for greater opportunities and challenges in my life that had I not experienced ________(fill in the blank), I would never have made it through_____(fill in the blank)?

If you and I are remotely similar, your answer to that last question is a resounding YES! If you are reading this blog, you did not lose your mind and you definitely survived!  To take it a step further, I believe that it is God’s way of showing us our weakness and inability to operate without Him. God does not put situations on us, neither does He cause them to occur for our growth.

In the Bible, in the book of Luke 22:31, Jesus explained to Simon Peter that Satan asked God to give all of them up so that he could sift them as wheat….Jesus prayed (especially for Peter) that his faith would not fail.

In the book of Job 2:3-4, The Lord asked Satan if he had considered Job and the Lord allowed him-Satan-access to Job, but not to kill him. There are many other examples in the Bible where God could have prevented harm, struggle, and disappointment, but he chose not to.

DON’T QUIT! BUILD THOSE SPIRITUAL MUSCLES!

Look at it this way. If you decide tman sadnesshat you want to get in shape because want a toned body, you realize that you have to exercise. You have to feel a bit of pain in order to build your muscles. You cannot do the same workout everyday for the next year and expect your body to continue to change. Once your body is conditioned to your workout, you have to increase the intensity of your workouts to achieve a higher level in order to realize the desired results.   It is a similar process for our spiritual lives. We are a spirit, we have a soul, and are housed in a body. Everything that happens in our lives is designed to build the necessary character, spirit, and resolve for our created purpose in life.

WHAT DID GOD SAY? WHOSE REPORT DO YOU BELIEVE?

 If you cannot tell, I am a believer. I believe that Jesus Christ is the Son of God. I believe that He died on the cross, rose on the 3rd day, and is seated at the right hand of His Father, the Most High God. I believe that He is THE way to God (Romans 10:9-10).

While I believe that there is a spiritual principle of sowing and reaping: every seed that we sow, we reap, I also believe that God has a plan and a purpose for each and every one of us. My belief is based on His word; that all things work together for my good because I love Him and am called according to His will and purpose (Romans 8:28).victory

God is a loving God, so much that He gave His only begotten Son that we may have life and that life abundantly (John 3:16). I also believe that God created man for Him; one of His most prize possessions. Satan has sought from the very beginning to destroy that relationship by creating a mindset that is independent of God. Being a believer does not mean that we are to have the same personality, dress the same way, have the same speech, or look the same. God created each of us with unique DNA and with a purpose.

SEEK HIS WISDOM ON THE MATTER

crossWhen disappointment occurs in my life, I seek God for wisdom and understanding.  He has instructed me in His Word to get wisdom (Proverbs 5-9). He has instructed me in Hebrews 12:3 to compare my trials to Jesus so that I do not grow weary or exhausted, losing heart, relaxing, and fainting in my mind. I renew my mind, and sometimes this is second by second so that I do not become conformed to the world’s standard of handling situations (Ephesians 4:23, Romans 12:2). Renewing my mind is seeing the situation as God has said it, not as it appears..

Equally important, I trust in Him! I believe that even when things don’t go according to plan and adverse consequences occur, i.e. losing a job, car breaking down and no money for repairs, a sickness that I cannot handle, the loss of a loved one, violation by a loved one, etc. I believe that He is working it out for my good.

He will give me the skills, talent, ability, and strength that I need to get through the storm. The test will become my testimony. I am honest with God and confess my true emotions about the situation as well as my fears. I am a naturally independent individual. I have learned to become independentlybest praying hands dependent upon God. I seek Him for wisdom in all things. I take action, believing that I am being lead by His Spirit! Even if I take the wrong step, I believe that He is faithful to re-direct me and use the detour for my good!  My gifts and talents are nothing without His direction.  Dependent upon how He uniquely created you, we can face the same challenge and take a totally different approach and reaction to it.  You have a purpose!  I have a purpose! What about you? Are you a believer as well? How do you handle disappointment in your life? Drop me a note in the comments and tell me your ways of handling life’s challenges.  God bless!

~LoLo~