Never Stop Moving

LoLo Watson

Life has a funny way of making you question yourself; especially if you are naturally inquisitive.  You have a vision of where you want to be-check! You establish your goals with measurable timelines-check! You set your plans and prepare your course of action-check! You are feeling confident! You have taken control of your life and your destiny and you are on your way to success bliss!

BOOM<——the sound of all hell breaking loose!   *INSERT LOUD SCREAMS*

The path that you perceived to be the best route to you realizing your goals is hit with a road block that says NO ENTRANCE!  No worries, you immediately think and immediately seek an alternative route, because that is how you roll! Nothing stops you!  However, there is just one problem, YOU ARE TIRED! YOU ARE TIRED OF ALTERNATE ROUTES AND CONSTANT DETOURS!  You are like the kid in the backseat of the car on vacation, “Are we there yet?!”  

Your destiny GPS seems to only be intimate with the word ‘re-routing‘. You believe that you have done everything that was to be done! You have worked hard! You have taken hits for the team! You have genuinely supported others in achieving success! You earned your badges and stripes! However, it seems that others are constantly passing you by on the interstate of destiny fulfillment.  They seemed to have quickly arrived at destiny bliss. I mean, it is as if you are driving a scooter and others are in a Maserati!

Today, I have come to offer us some encouragement! All that we have need of: skill and character development, is achieved through our journey not in the realization of our dreams, which is our final destination!  It is through the journey that we learn who we are and of what we are made! It is through the journey that our character flaws are exposed and our underlying hidden success blockers are realized!

The actualization of the dream/arrival at our destination just means we are ready because we have been prepared! So, while it seems that other travelers, on this road to destiny, are passing us by, we must remember that they-too- are being prepared and maybe they are ready. We must remember that their ‘preparation‘ and ‘readiness training‘ may look and feel totally different than ours!

We are unclear of what was necessary to expedite their travels on this road to greatness. Neither are we always fully aware of the number of hells they have traveled through and what their sacrifices were (and in many cases are being) made.  There are so many answers to which we are not always privy. The question then becomes how do we deal? How do we get through when life throws those blows that we were not expecting?

  1. We dream and plan! We put our plans and dreams on paper and seek God for confirmation! God says, in Proverbs 16:9, that a man’s mind plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps and makes them sure. We need to continue to make our plans and submit them to God to ensure that we are in sync with His will for our lives.
  2. We have to have faith! Faith says that even when it does not feel good, when all hell is breaking lose, and when it seems that we are traveling a desolate and deserted road, we don’t stop moving. We have to take steps in the direction that we believe to be accurate, fully trusting that God will re-route us if our choices are delaying arrival at our final destination.
  3. We express gratitude! When those times come, and they will, that we believe we are getting ready to walk through a door and it slams so hard that we feel our nose is gone, we have to be thankful! Thankful that God loves us enough to close the door that was not meant for us.  No matter how professionally connected we are, regardless of how well we planned, regardless of how educated and skilled we are, we will always have finite knowledge and vision. We have to remember this! Only God knows what is happening on the other side of that door that we desire so badly! It is in our trust in Him that we activate a ‘lightening speed’ advancement on our travels.
  4. We establish a solid network! We must surround ourselves with people who demonstrate their love and support for us. When we are at our weakest, and experience surprising blows, we need those people who can give us a life hug and kiss of support and encouragement!  This type of support is priceless, more valuable than any material possession!

Disappointment will come! Surprises will come! Hardship will come! At the end of the day, we must remain faithful that we will see the end! Never stop moving! Never stop dreaming!  We shall succeed because we believe!  XOXO

~LoLo~

THE PATHWAY TO SUCCESS

Recently, in a meeting,  my Executive Intern said to me, “I read your blog and  your facebook posts and I become motivated but then it seems that I go back to my old way”.  And you know what happened, A NEW BLOG WAS WRITTEN! 🙂  She raises a great point!  It is very easy to become motivated to start a new venture, project, goal, etc; however, maintaining that motivation to complete that ‘thing’ is an altogether different matter!  I considered myself, pondered my incomplete projects and my non-realized goals!  I inquired as to what happened that prevented me from staying the course towards completion of something for which I was initially very passionate and motivated.   Of course, I made many attempts to justify this one and explain that one; however, the results were the same-incomplete goals.  What was even more fascinating was that it didn’t matter the year, the project, or what was happening in my life at the time; it was a lack of maintained focus due to what I describe as unsuspecting distractions.

Distractions can be destructive!  I believe that distractions come in two forms:  suspecting and unsuspecting!  The Suspecting Distraction is easier to deal with most times because it will feel like an interruption.  Examples of suspecting distractions are:   constant interruptions when writing:  assistant has a couple of quick  questions, interns  need help on  a project, and the phone won’t stop ringing.  These are very obvious distractions that often can be dealt with immediately with a little adjusting.  For example, closing the office door, putting up a DO NOT DISTURB SIGN, redirecting the calls to voice mail and/or silencing the ringer will prevent the interruptions.

However, the Unsuspecting Distractions are not so easy to detect because they appear to be legitimate and justifiable interruptions.  Examples of the unsuspecting distraction are:  unplanned budget cuts, a sudden RIF (reduction in force), sudden job loss in your household, having to take a leave of absence to care for a family member who suddenly became ill.  Who wouldn’t understand you letting go of what you have planned to address these urgent matters?  Yep! That, my friend, is why they are dangerous!  An unsuspecting distraction partners with your sub-conscious to justify and accept the defeat of an unrealized goal.  Together, this partnership develops an effective communication strategy to your conscious mind to let go of your goals because these ‘matters’ are more important right now.  Before you realize it, time has passed, in many cases years, and you are no further along than you were at the initial motivation!  If you are not careful, you can even develop bitterness towards the unsuspecting distraction that you allowed to take your motivation and get you off course.

I encourage you to be active in your life!  Recognize what you are doing and allowing to be done to you at all times!  Fight through the unsuspecting distraction(s), deal with the matters at hand, if necessary, adjust your timeline for reaching your goals, and stay motivated until you reach your goal(s).  This perseverance, this relentlessness, this tenaciousness towards meeting your goals will birth something far greater on the inside of you than the realization of the goal itself!  Do not allow those sneaky unsuspecting distractions to cause and keep you off the course for success, thus placing you in an inactive state of non-success!  Push out that resolve that says I can and I will be successful at reaching this goal!

So, in LoLo fashion, I have identified a few quick tips that have assisted me in maintaining my motivation towards my goals:

1.  Make sure that your goals are realistic, measurable, & attainable.  EX:  I will exercise no less than (NLT) 3xs per week for NLT 20 minutes

2.  Write your goals down and how you plan to achieve them. EX: I will walk the stairs during my lunch break on M, W, & F.

3.  Review your progress towards meeting your goals NLT on a weekly basis (there should be some daily task that is associated with your goals)

3.  Celebrate your milestones and don’t dwell in those times that you did not reach a milestones; this is the difference between conviction and condemnation.  Conviction motivates you to improve and condemnation motivates you to dwell in failure.

4.  Keep on Keeping On!

You will achieve what you believe if you give time, attention, and hard work!  I wish you the best in maintaining your motivation and reaching your goals! ~LoLo~